溝通的意義何在?!

 
一直認為,溝通的目的是為了能讓彼此相異的觀點,
藉由溝通的方式將之間的差距給縮短,
更或者是從中找出彼此都可接受的平衡點!!
 
當雙方相處模式中,若發現彼此之間的問題一直重復不斷的出現時,
就表示兩者之間並未真正的去做所謂的 " 溝通 "……
可能的原因在於…把問題給淡化了、表面化了!!
想裝做視而不見,試圖讓自己認為….
" ok! 現在問題已經放在一邊了! 眼前已經沒這問題可以打擾到彼此了! "
 
但….真是這樣嗎?
將問題放在一邊的結果….就像是紙張一樣!!
即便是薄薄的不成大礙,但累積過多時,其厚度也是不容小觀的啊~
 
因此,
當彼此雙方在某個觀點出現差異或相處之間出現某些問題時,
若無法面對面的說出口….
此時,文字的表達就是一個很重要的管道了….
畢竟,在當下~~~若表達不當,將很難避免不出現口氣不耐的態度!!
尤甚者更易氣上加氣、火上加油!! 讓事情更加複雜化…..
 
倘若,在當面的溝通中,
氣氛真出現了不尋常的火藥味時,
那麼,讓彼此的情緒暫歇下來是必要的,
將問題盡快的解決也是必定的!!
 
想想要如何能不傷對方的心、
又能明確的將自己所欲表達的意思給傳達至對方,
這時,就需藉由沈澱後的思緒以文字的方法表達出來啦!!
 
對我來說,
比起直接的口語敘述,
文字的傳達是更能呈現出我內心所欲表達的意念!!
因為,拜現今電腦的方便性,在未點下傳送鍵時,
都可經由重覆的瀏覽,不足則增、過多則刪…..
如此的加加減減,也就離中心的意念愈接近!!
溝通的目的也就更能完善的達到良好的結果!!
 
說了這麼多,
何嘗又不是希望大家都能找到一個最合適自己的溝通方式!!
但願大家的問題都能在良好的溝通管道中,
煙~消~雲~散~
 
 
本篇發表於 今日感言。將永久鏈結加入書籤。

3 Responses to 溝通的意義何在?!

  1. steven 說道:

    嗯,這話我完全同意,我朋友也是這麼說的……….感恩哦!

  2. Anita 說道:

    真的嗎?那還望兄台引見、引見,我也期盼 遇~知~音~啊~ ^ ^

  3. Sabrina 說道:

    Dear Anita: I agree with your opinion of communication. Communication is very important in people\’s relationship. No doubt, almost all people have troubles with it. Most of the time, some people think the problems they have are not serious, and these people don\’t really care or don\’t even want to try to solve the problems. while others do. But, in this situation, it is really difficult to deal with it. Everyone has his or her own opinion, and nobody can really control it. In my experience, if I have communication problem with others, first, I will try to use other way to tell them or try to dicuss with them. If this way doesn\’t work, and then I may try 2 or 3 more times. After that, I will just quit. Family and friends are different to us. Family will always be family, but we can have as many friends as we want. So, if we can\’t communicate with the friend we have, I suggested give up this one and maybe we can get a better friend next time. That\’s my opinion. Remember—Human being are the most complicated animals in the world.

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